Our Easter bunny made his appearance this week…More signs of Spring include a clean fridge, my organized closet and the donations to be hauled away. My husband, Mike, cleared the patio of dead leaves, and my son, Riley, took care of the dreaded dog poop collection from Winter 2014, so we are well on our way to enjoying this season and that comes along with it. A season of celebration and expectation and one we look forward to…Spring.
But I’m talking about our personal lives, things are transitioning into another season and a major change in our family. My husband is retiring from a 35 year career in less than a week AND my son is going on a mission trip to Honduras. These are the types of events that change us as people, profoundly. They cause us to look at ourselves in a different light. They ask us to assess our past experience and predict into the future about our abilities. Can we manage the transition and change? Will I like the differences? Will the changes enhance my life for the better? My husband is concerned about ‘how’ he will use his time and it’s a little daunting, for him to think about having so much time to himself. I talk about his enjoyment and how much more of his life he gets to himself…but he worries about the change of not having a purpose and daily routine. Will he enjoy being home and not seeing those he interacts with regularly?
My conversations with him remind me of how hard it is to see ourselves differently sometimes. The ‘rut’ we fall into with our identities. It reminds me of my work with ADHD clients who are struggling and I see how they have ‘bought into’ the beliefs from other family, friends and teachers that they just aren’t capable to do things sometimes. It’s true that change is hard…but its about our mindsets and how we think of ourselves.
In my work, I see that it takes more than action plans to change…it takes a mindset and belief that you are not ‘stuck’, that you have strengths and capabilities that can be welded and used to accomplish your desires and intentions. A choice you decide for yourself to move forward and see another ‘season’ coming is one of the most powerful ways to start changing.